Being a single man buying a house has its advantages and disadvantages. Being a man buying a house with or without your spouse also has its ups and downs. In this section, we will discuss ups and downs similar to both situations and then separate issues for each category.
Common issues you face buying a house when your spouse is involved:
- You are more practical than wise. What you are looking for in a home is often different than what a woman wants in a home. You’re looking for a garage, basement and yard. She’s looking at bedrooms, the kitchen, closet space, school districts, etc…
- Don’t ever buy the house your wife does not want. Your life will be miserable. Every time something goes wrong, you will hear a version of “I told you not to buy this thing…Now fix it”. Not Good! If you can’t agree on the house YOU pass it by and wait until she agrees with you, or just let her pick it out and hope you get a few of the things you wanted. Besides she probably thinks about it more than you do, has better ideas for making it worth more money and looking spiffy because she’s already aware of who is going to clean and decorate it!(Women I told you not to read this!!)
- Do not over extend yourself with a house payment. Keep it affordable and make sure you still have some money for family fun after making the payment. It’s important to get her out of the house occasionally. Really gals, we need our space too!
Issues addressing the single male buyer:
- If you have any thoughts of getting married and sharing the house, don’t kid yourself. She doesn’t know what went on before she showed up, but she’s sure she doesn’t like it. You will end up (I GUARANTEE YOU) selling YOUR home and buying OUR house. It’s ok…that’s just how it is and you surely want to be a happily married man, don’t you? It’s all good. You might be starting off your new life with a different home…Not necessarily in the beginning, but it will happen.
- Your man cave is not the most important part of the house. The house has to be sold at some point, especially if you get married. The next buyer is going to probably have a woman in charge of the decision making, and she’s not looking for a man-cave. Make sure it has a usable kitchen, some place to call the bedrooms, a bathroom and some closets.
- Owning a home is good for your social life. Women dig a guy that doesn’t still live at home.
- Owning a home allows you and your buddies to party late with a reduced chance of having the Police called and should cut down on the opportunity for being exposed to DWI’s. Just set a rule: If they drink they stay. Bean bag chairs and futons are still in vogue!!
- Buying a home shows you’re not afraid of commitment. That could be good or bad. Your life, your problem.
- Great place for your girlfriend and you to spend time with her kids….and yours.
- Gives you a great place to play house.
- Allows you to get a roommate who pays half of your mortgage and utilities.
These thoughts should help you make a better decision about homeownership from a man’s perspective. Now you know what you’re in for and who really wears the pants in the house. If you’re a happily married man you already KNOW!
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